Music has always been an important part of my life. I really enjoy listening to songs and getting lost in the words.
I am also not necessarily picky when it comes to the genre or type of music. If it sounds good, has good lyrics and doesn’t eat my brain cells; I am totally down for it.
But music is also a way for me to just get away when I am having a rough day. While the meanings of song lyrics is often debated, some songs feel very relate-able. Kind of like they were written just for my situation.
It’s really hard for me to describe how difficult it is to be a caregiver and wife. It is extremely hard to separate those roles!
These 3 songs really allow me to connect to their words
I’m totally aware these songs were not written just for my situation (I’m not that oblivious). But they allow me to feel like there is someone out there who gets it- as corny as that sounds.
I feel like this song perfectly portrays the difficulty of loving my veteran, regardless of his behaviors at times. My husband has no filter and will pretty much say whatever comes to his mind. Sometimes, the things he says can come across as insensitive and rude. And way too often will he pay more attention to what he needs and wants than anything else.
I am insensitive, I have a tendency
To pay more attention to the things that I need
Sometimes I drink too much, sometimes I test your trust,
Sometimes I don’t know why you’re staying with me
A couple of years ago, my husband watched the Eric Church performance of this song on the ACM Awards in a duet with Valerie June. This version seriously is amazing. During one of the few times my husband has opened up to me, he mentioned to me how surprised he is that I am still here with him. He said he understands that he is not easiest person to be with.
I understand that we will never be a “normal” couple or family. We will always have to fight others’ perceptions of how our relationship should be. We will probably never be the happy, smiley, spontaneous and always traveling family that we should be. But I do know my husband, his love for me and our son. I understand he’s in pain. I understand there are things he’s seen and done that many couldn’t ever imagine having to do.
Yes, he has his faults. He can be insensitive and rude. He can downright be an asshole. But my husband is also, protective, loyal and loving. And this son perfectly describes that.
Always thought she’d give up on me one day,
Wash her hands of me, leave me staring down some runway,
Yeah, I thank God each night, and twice on Sunday,
That she loves me like Jesus does.
We have been listening to Chris Stapleton for a few years now. Some of my favorite songs are from his days with The SteelDrivers. His history in the music industry is so vast and amazing. So, before Chris Stapleton made it “big” (in relative terms) we were able to see him in concert. We literally paid $20 a ticket and were able to take our son with us. It was horribly anxiety inducing for my husband. But we got to see him and his wife, Morgan, perform in a small setting.
This experience alone makes this artist’s songs very special to me.
But when listening to the “Making of…” of the video of Fire Away confirmed the connection I had with this particular song. In the interview, Chris Stapleton explains that the song is “about loving somebody unconditionally, throughout not so easy times.” Check out the full version of the interview about the “Making of Fire Away.”
Loving and being with my husband has never been easy. Having to deal with his PTSD, TBI, and laundry list of other conditions has been one of the most difficult things I’ve done and probably will do. Granted, I am fairly young. But how many 20-something women nowadays consciously choose to (or try to) stay with their love, even through some of the most trying times that PTSD can throw at us?
Much like Chris Stapleton, we’ve been listening to Drake for quite some time now. But after hearing this song, my husband told me that this perfectly describes us as a couple.
Worn and haggard, weathered and torn
Drug through the keyhole of that back door
Blood shot red behind these shades
I look like hell, yes, I’ve seen better daysAnd then those loving arms they pull me back in
And there you go, baby, yeah, making me look good again
The first four lines describe my husband to a tee.
It is very touching to find that something as simple as a song can help my veteran find a connection to me. And the ability to share that with me in a loving way.
Aside from my husband telling me that this song describes how he feels about our relationship, Drake White is an amazing singer. Plus anytime someone can incorporate wine into their song this beautifully, will get my support. =)
What songs have you connected with? Feel free to share your favorites.
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